Your child wants you to notice and listen to them. When you are patient with your child, you are also telling him that he is important and valid. And when you lose your temper, you can make your child feel stressed and upset.
How showing patience can help
When you’re a patient parent, you show your kids how to be respectful, kind, safe, and have good self-esteem. These are the things that will teach your child how to be present and close, both to himself and to other people.
So, when you “Stop, Look, and Listen” to your child, you show him that he is important, that you believe in him, and that you care about how he feels. Active listening requires patience and builds the confidence you need to be in charge of yourself. Finally, patience fosters not only empathy and compassion, but also confidence and skill.
Parenting with a Mind
Patience is a virtue. By becoming a conscious parent, you can consciously control your impulsiveness and impatience and be there for your child when he needs you. By not putting your own inner discord or stress on your child, you can learn how to choose how to act instead of being a victim of it. This is called “conscious parenting,” and it not only helps you deal with your compulsions but also shows your child how to be a healthy, proactive adult.
Be the person you want to meet
Children are social learners who learn from their experiences, their surroundings, what they see others do, and what they do themselves. Be the person you want to see. This will help you be there for your child and for yourself. By paying attention, listening actively, and making eye contact with your child when you talk to him, you reduce his frustration and show him that you are there for whatever he is doing. This teaches him that being patient means really listening and being there for others.
My empathic process is a great way to teach patience because it gives your child a safe place to practice and learn what it means to be patient, present, and interested in the process of building relationships.
